Let’s talk about sex, Baby.

Last weekend I spoke to a standing room only crowd about sex.  The topic of the panel was: Romance, More Than Just Sex. Which is true, romance is about far more than sex, but I want to dive into something deeper. Something that resonated with me both during the talk and long after, something that’s bugged me for a long time, but I’ve only just now been able to dial in after being on that panel and taking part in the conversations it incited. On the panel I was the funny one, the single writer behind the table who not only wrote open door sex scenes, but explicit ones. I was sandwiched between some amazing writers who for whatever their personal reasons–and for some of them it was the genre that they wrote in–they’d chosen not to write about sex.  The panel was fantastic and I made everybody laugh with my ballsy, irreverent comments (no surprise there!) and interestingly enough, a lot of the questions were for me.   Q: How do you deal with family members when they learned that you wrote about sex A: You mean, when they asked for tips? *laughter* Q: Why do you feel like you need to write explicit scenes? Why not close the bedroom door and let the readers’ imaginations fill in the blanks? A: I’ve exposed every rawness and vulnerability my characters have, I’ve made them face fears and doubts. I think it’s a disservice to my readers to leave them out of the most vulnerable moment two people/characters can have. Q: How much sex was too much sex? Sometimes I worry about whether I should have her...

Super Fan Giveaway

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Win a Kindle HD Fire+12 free ebooks! #thirsty4firsties

The summer’s ‘can’t miss’ Facebook party for fans of book series is upon us! This Thursday, July 17th (6 PM Eastern), 12 authors will be giving away the first books in their series along with gift cards and a Kindle Fire HD. I’m one of them! Here’s a little video about the event:   So how do you go about scoring some of those sweet, sweet prizes? Simple! First, just show up and interact with the authors. Ask us about our books, find out who we cheered for in the World Cup, tell us about your book boyfriends and girlfriends, share LOL cat videos–do whatever it is you do to party.  Second, check this infographic:     Third, pay attention to see if you’ve won stuff. It’s that easy!  This is truly going to be a ton of fun, and you’re guaranteed to get to hang out with some super fun folks. And who knows? Maybe you’ll score the Kindle loaded with all of our books! Hope to see you there! Share...

Change. New and exciting changes coming to the site.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. ~ Mahatma Gandhi I’m not sure that quote is the right one for this topic, but it’s always been one that speaks deeply to me. I searched this entire site for the perfect “Change” quote, but there were just too many good ones, so that’s how I ended up with the Gandhi one. I wanted to take a quick second and talk about some changes that are underway here at thesurvivalmama.com and jengreyson.com and on my social media sites. While I’ve always been passionate about survival and making that fit into busy mom lives, the underlying current has always been about writing–whether writing to bring valuable content to you, or writing my novels . . . but it was never the perfect fit. Which is a lot of the reason why my blogging has fallen off as of late. But that’s bugged me. I don’t like leaving stuff hanging. I’ve felt like I let the lot of you down and I’ve wanted to get back to blogging and connecting, because I miss it. But I also wanted to make sure I wasn’t just jawwing about stupid stuff just to hear myself talk. So I didn’t blog. Over the last few months, a few things have happened. 1. I turned 40. Nothing like a killer milestone to make you reevaluate your life. Ugh. I was so not where I thought I was going to be when I turned ancient. But I’m also not where I thought I would be . . . and that’s a good thing. Turning 40 is...

Inspired Writing

Q: What city inspired your writing? A: The most random things inspire a new story. For SNOWED UNDER (formerly WOOD) I caught a news article about a tiny Alaskan town (Point Hope, I think) that got hit by a late Spring storm and hammered with ridiculous snow totals–like 108″ in a day–and their shipment of heating oil got delayed. I started thinking about what kind of characters would meet under those circumstances . . . and then the least likely combination of characters that would meet under the same circumstances. Talk about obstacles ;) After a bit of drifty daydreaming I came up with the unlikely pair that you meet in the book, a logger and a hippie–two people at extreme opposite ends of the spectrum. Aaannnnd Teague’s already made the shift from college to the business world, where Cassidy’s still starry-eyed and taking on the world…so their views on a lot of things are shaded from their perspectives and knowledge pools. My writing mentor once told me that if you start with setting your characters organically grow from that and the two weave together better than if you start with characters and try to stuff them into a certain place. Now that I’ve been able to try that a few times, I’ve found it’s much easier to see the conflicts from the very beginning. Plus, it makes my bucket list a pretty interesting mix :)   Rafflecopter Code: a Rafflecopter giveaway Share...

Writer Wednesday ~ Cover Reveal for Ginnie West Adventure Series

THE  GINNIE WEST ADVENTURE SERIES HAS NEW COVERS!! This is a great MG series by Monique Bucheger and to celebrate the reveal she’s partnered with a ton of authors for some killer giveaways!   To Celebrate– Monique is having a week-long Cover Reveal Blog Tour AND a BOOK BOMB!!  It works like this: Anybody who buys the 3rd book: Simply West of Heaven: A Ginnie West Adventure on JUNE 20, 2013 gets an email with all of the links and codes to buy 15 of these books for FREE and an opportunity to check out the other 11 for .99 each. On a side note: Monique’s author friends are a generous group of people, so she is really hoping you will support them as well. Many of the .99 books have recently been offered for free and have run out of free days (imagine that–depending on where an author has their e-books– they can only have them free for 5 days.) so PLEASE consider supporting the .99 books– trust me–the ones I have read are WELL worth it. And nobody can touch 16 e-books for the price on ONE!! Several of these books are authored by multi-award winning, bestselling authors. Please mark JUNE 20, 2013 on your calanders as the day to pick up this great book! And for even MORE fun: Click  on the following link. Once you are at the Rafflecopter, click on as many entries as you want to enter for some great prizes. FREE to enter. ;) a Rafflecopter giveaway Share...